I just discovered a book by Architect William J. Hirsch Jr. AIA entitled Designing Your Perfect House: Lessons from an Architect (November 1, 2008) that I think is a great book on the thinking and planning process for prospective new home builders (and contains design advice that is certainly useful for remodeling too).
The author Mr Hirch can also be found on the web at:
Facebook: William J Hirsch Jr. Inc AIA – Home
Houzz: Designing Your Perfect House: Lessons from an Architect
William J. Hirsch Jr., Inc. – Design Solutions to Lifestyle Challenges
and another site entitled: Expert Home Design, Kitchen Design, & Bathroom Design Advice